Pushover

Sometimes, you can't help but be sucked into a swirling vortex of actions that go beyond your control. People come to you, demanding this, demanding that. A fury of instructions, wanting you to do things their way and you find yourself being pulled in different directions to solve their problems.

There is a saying that goes, all forms of misfortunes and unhappiness that your perceive are actually brought upon by no one but yourself. If you let yourself be passive and always agreeable, people will walk all over you. On the surface, you will think it don't bother but as time goes by, you may start to resent it if it makes you feel like you are allowing others to take advantage of you.

Nobody likes being push over, so don't psycho yourself to think you are different. Listen to your instincts. When something bothers you or you feel you have been wronged, it is best to speak up right away. No matter how hard you try, you have to accept the fact that you cannot please everyone all the time. And most importantly people will respect you much more for your confidence than for being a wimp, when you stop being a pushover.

However, it is also important to keep things in check and balance. Do not mistake assertiveness for defensiveness. In your confrontations, you always want to maintain a balanced reaction, subdued yet steady. Clearly state what you want, need and expect. Be firm, persistent and resilient.

Abandoning your formerly soft self would not be accomplished overnight; you must constantly remind yourself to do these things in order to effectively change your ways. It might be easier to practice your assertiveness with a stranger, as friends and family have come to expect a certain non-confrontational, meek, wishy-washy brand of behavior from you. When you meet new people, set the precedent from the beginning. Now that you're conscious of the difference between being easygoing and being walked all over, you can establish healthier interpersonal relationships.

Just remember that you deserve to feel appreciated, not used. You can be Mr Nice, but within reason and not at the expense of your pride.
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If you don't want to be a pushover, you need to learn how to stand on your own feet.